People always say, "Children change your life." Well, this is a fact in ALL parts of your life. Some people say, "You'll never sleep again," or talk about how much it costs to raise a child. The truth is, children don't just change certain parts of your life, they change EVERY part of your life. Having children changes you as a person. It changes your schedule, what you spend money on, how you spend your time, and it changes how easily you make decisions. Jacob was recently offered a position in another town and at first it was exciting. The thought of moving and Jacob getting this amazing opportunity was all very . . . well . . . fun. Then, we started talking about it and realized that a big change like that might be devastating to Alex. Let's be honest for a minute--kids are mean. There, I said it. It's true. Well, not ALL kids are mean, but there ARE kids that are very mean to other kids. I'm not an idiot. I know that Alex would be an easy target for some kid who was looking for some one to pick on. Right now he has friends who have been with him since he was 3 and 4 years old. I can't imagine taking Alex away from everything he knows and force him to start over with new kids at a new school, new therapists, new doctors. He has made some great friends here and they don't treat him like he's different. To them, he's just Alex. Sometimes, as parents, no amount of money is enough to take your special needs child from everything he knows and stick him in a new and strange environment and force him to start over. We love the therapists Alex has now and we love that his friends are always there to support and help him. We even have friends here that help us when we need it. Friends who love our children and would do anything for our children. So, after a lot of thinking, praying, and discussing the pros and cons we kept coming back to the same thought--"What about Alex?" So, Jacob turned down this great opportunity so Alex can go on thriving and stay with all the people who love him. I know telling them "no" when they offered him the job wasn't easy for Jacob, but he did it for his son/family. I am thankful to have a husband (and father of my children) who puts his children/family first. I think Alex is going to do great things one day and I look forward to watching him continue to thrive, grow, accomplish new things, and believe in himself because he is surrounded by people who love him! AND--to all of you wonderful people who love our children and are always helping us, encouraging us AND them--THANK YOU. We love you guys. ;)
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